Keeping Your Adoptive Family Strong
Strategies for Success
Welcoming a new child into the home through adoption is a life-altering experience-for the child, the parents, and everyone else in the family. Expectations and realities often differ dramatically, and adjusting to the change can be difficult and emotionally painful.
Since the majority of children available for adoption today are in the system as the result of abuse and neglect, parents must acknowledge the fact they these young innocents will carry their trauma with them into their new homes. A willingness to address the not-so-easy, didn't-see-that-coming aspects of adoption is the first step toward building a strong family.
A valuable resource for parents and professionals, this book provides useful strategies for facing the challenges posed by adopted children. The inclusion of real stories from real people adds heart and encouragement, offering hope for the future of the entire family.
Keeping Your Adoptive Family Strong combines all the essential elements that make up an important book - knowledge, insight, experience, honesty, and heart-into one very accessible and readable volume. I believe it will genuinely help a lot of people, and I wholeheartedly recommend it to professionals and families alike. – Adam Pertman, President of the National Center on Adoption and Permanency and author of Adoption Nation
Keeping Your Adoptive Family Strong: Strategies for Success is a valuable tool for prospective adoptive parents. Traumatized children often bring with them more than anyone can see. This book brings all possibilities to the forefront. It is a true and real account of what adoptive families may endure as they adjust to creating and becoming a family. Having adopted three children, two of whom experienced trauma in their young lives, my husband and I consider this book a godsend. Adoption is an incredible journey, and resources such as this will benefit not just parents, but adoptive children, as well-helping them understand where they came from and what they bring to their new families. – Missy Hokanson, adoptive mother
With Keeping Your Adoptive Family Strong, Keck and Gianforte deliver a timely and incredibly helpful resource for those beginning the journey of adoption and professionals working in the field. The book gives an honest look at what to expect when adopting from foster care, and it is armed with realistic - rather than romanticized - expectations that give parents the keys to successfully overcome the inherent challenges. Consistent with our organization's experiences working within the largest foster care system in the U.S., Keeping Families Strong after Adoption shows that adoption won't be easy, but is a journey well worth taking for anyone with room in their heart to change the course of a child's life. – Janis Spire, President and CEO, Alliance for Children’s Rights, Los Angeles
Keck and Gianforte speak directly, with great honesty, empathy, wisdom and humour, to those most closely involved in adoption: adopters themselves and their professional supporters. They attempt to unpick the myths, misconceptions and misplaced attributions of blame surrounding the placement and support of children and adolescents in adoptive families. Their practical, user-friendly, no-nonsense approach goes right to the heart of what it means, and how it feels to be, or to live with, a traumatised child. There are challenging lessons for all of us which the warmth, love and hard-hitting humour of the authors allows us to 'hear' and accept - to set in motion the systemic and personal changes needed for adopted youngsters to rebuild their lives and thrive. – Caroline Archer, adoptive parent, therapeutic parent mentor and co-author of Reparenting the Child who Hurts: A Guide to Healing Developmental Trauma and Attachment
Although adoption offers the hope of a 'forever family', naïve good intentions and wishes for happy ever after can leave families alone in - and blamed for - their predictable crises. The authors provide a balanced approach that honestly explores the challenges and risks - while still offering reassurance and hope - by highlighting strategies that can help resolve traumatic reactions and forge resilient connections. This book should be a must read for anyone involved in adoption, whether as a parent or professional. – Vicky Kelly PsyD, MSW, MHA Director, Delaware Division of Family Services
Gregory C. Keck, PhD was the founder and director of the Attachment and Bonding Center of Ohio, which specializes in the treatment of children and adolescents who have experienced developmental interruptions due to their early traumatic history. He was certified as a Diplomate and Fellow by the American Board of Medical Psychotherapy and was a Diplomate in Professional Psychotherapy. In 2012, he was given the Lifetime Achievement Award by the National Association of Social Workers, Region 2, and was also honored with the Statewide Lifetime Achievement Award by the Ohio Chapter of the National Association of Social Workers. He is the co-author of Adopting the Hurt Child and Parenting the Hurt Child, and author of Parenting Adopted Adolescents.
L. (Elle) Gianforte is an award-winning writer, collaborative author, ghostwriter, and developmental editor. She writes books in a diversity of arenas, including lifestyle, self-help, fashion, design, memoir, food, and adoption. Her extensive experience in the adoption arena includes serving on the board of directors of ATTACh, the Association for Treatment and Training in the Attachment of Children, for two years. She holds a Bachelor of Arts degree in English from Kean University in New Jersey and attended the School of Visual Arts in New York. She is the adoptive mother of two sons.
